Our One Month Anniversary

Today marks the one month anniversary of my marriage to the love of my life. Between the amazing wedding and post wedding settlement, the month came and went with a wing on it. This one month was both challenging and fascinating for both of us as we started a new life together, trying to make the other more comfortable, cooking together, enjoying being lazy, going on dates and so on. This is the time when we got our first chance to know each other quiet closely, our likes- dislikes, our similarities as well as our dissimilarities.

No doubt when you start a new life there comes a lot of challenges but one thing that is the most important is your understanding with your spouse…that comes gradually for sure and ours is not that strong yet. People say that they are deep in love with their partner and then months (and even years) go by, and you start reading the many articles that tell you about the 7 year itch and all the challenges that will come your way after the love gets buried under the children and you find yourselves two very tired and overworked people who used to be in love. But the truth for me is that I don’t think years of marriage has anything to do with a feeling that we  fall out of love.  I just think we forget to remember the small things, which in the end add up to be the daily things that turn days into months, years and a lifetime together.

For me, when my spouse do little things for me, it is the most important moment, whether he steals some of his working hours for me or he cook for me or with me or we go on a long ride together. I think it is important to notice these moments and the ways in which the person you chose to spend your life with shows up for you each and every day.

When you take the time to do this, I do believe you will be more willing and able to forgive this person when they upset you or make a decision that you do not like.  It is about remembering what is good in your life and in this person.

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Today at our one month anniversary, I want to tell MY MAN that I am so happy that we decided to be with each other. I want to tell you that I could not be more grateful or happy than this. I thought that our Wedding day would be the best day of my life, but I was wrong…….with you by my side, its Every Day. The way you take care of every small thing that I need, the way you express your love (rarely 🙂 ), the struggle you do for me being in that stable good mood, that all is incredible and loving. Thanks for being in my life and being so generous, kind and understanding. It is just a month since we have got married, but it feels like I have been with you for a lifetime. Last but not the least, I will not say that I am ever gonna change, you have to bear me as it is, as long as the life allow us to be together 😛

Many people out there could think it a stupid idea or some show off but I think that no victory is ever too small to celebrate. This is ours and I wish these small things always remain there between us that we can cherish and make our lives a big happy one with these small moments.

And for all reading this, wherever you are and whatever you are doing with your spouse, I hope you all have those small but rich, cherishing moments that allow you to remember why you chose this person in the first place.

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Being Selfish sometimes is not bad

“Sometimes you have to be selfish to be selfless.” — Edward Albert

I have always noted people saying that they dedicated all their lives for their children, parents or spouse and in return did not get what they deserve. They have been so selfless that they give up on their own hobbies, carrier or other choices just to accommodate in their present situation. If they would not have done so, they would have ruined their family or society would have cursed them or their family for their deeds.

This is because, in the society we live, people always promote the idea that being selfless is the true meaning of being a good human. And, actually, in doing so, you often cost your own wealth, welfare and above all- your happiness.

So, in my opinion, being a little selfish is not too bad. You don’t need to be a Hitler personality for that. After all you are also a human being and can give some priority to yourself too. So that in your 50’s or 60’s, you won’t be saying that I am sad coz I could not lead my life my way. Read below and think a little while….

Who is responsible for your happiness?Being Selfish sometimes is not bad

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” Continue reading “Being Selfish sometimes is not bad”

Celebrate this Diwali with a difference

The Diwali has its own charm and brings joy to everyone for many a reasons. No doubt that Diwali is a very popular festival in India. We all celebrate Diwali with our family members, lit diyas, have lots of rich food and sweets, gamble, fire crackers, and all joy. But there is a harsh side on this festival too. The labourers working in the firework factories work in a terrible condition that is beyond ones thought. They could only get enough to maintain their livelihood and nothing much. We all celebrate and have fun and there are lots of people that starve for a proper meal that day and other days too. Considering them, we must be grateful for whatever we have in our lives.

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So why don’t we celebrate this Diwali with a little difference and good spirit. Bring a little change in your routine ways celebration and witness the difference.

Personally wish your near & dear ones

Most of us stick to texting these days and save phone calls. This time personally call your friends and natives and wish them. When we talk, we feel a deep sense of bonding which give them a feeling of happiness and to us, satisfaction.

Be a good listeners

Many of us live apart from our families for studies or job and get only some occasions on which we meet our family. And even when we are there to celebrate, we have a long ‘to do’ list for our vacations. Keep that list aside, totally forgetting to meet any outer person. Give your full time to your family this time. Talk to them, share your feelings and some funny incident with them so that they feel connected. When you open up with them, they also get the courage to talk out their hearts to you. This will make them feel good and their Diwali will be happier than they would have though.

Do some Charity

We all spend a lot of money on the festival for crackers and other stuff. Unfortunately, for some peoples and kids, celebrating the occasions remain to be a long distant dream. Celebrate Diwali with the less fortunate ones, spending some good time and bringing a difference in their lives.

Spare some money from your budget and donate something to the needy. Charity always gives a feeling of being contented. Give away sweets, clothes, crackers, food and other items to the needy. Involve your family, especially kids in this process and tell them the joy and importance of giving.

Stop finding faults and find something to be grateful for

Mahatma Gandhi said, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” We always find fault in the way the society and the family goes on. Like, in the daily chores, we keep on finding faults in the ways the work has been done. Stop doing that right away. If you think the ways is wrong try doing it by yourself. Try to help in cleaning the home or decorations of Diwali. Keep calm even if you feel angry. Appreciate your mother or wife or sister for their work. Try making them feel connected to you.

Make this Diwali remember able one for you and for others too. Happiness is nothing but the satisfaction of your heart. Feel it this time and you will love to do it again and again.

Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani Movie Review

Casting: Ranbir Kapoor, Deepika Padukone, Aditya Roy Kapur & Kalki Koechlin

Director: Ayan Mukherji

Characters:  Ranbir Kapoor & Deepika Padukone are in lead roles. Ranbir Kapoor as Kabir urf  Bunny Thapar, a travel-lover who doesn’t take love seriously until he falls for Naina. He is astatic, imprudent, Travel freak who only want to enjoy life and travel every nook and corner of the world. Deepika Padukone as Naina Talwar, an overly intellectual, obsessive, socially impaired who falls for Bunny. She is a topper who is almost a book worm. An accidently meeting of her with Aditi (her old school friend) makes her realize to live the life and not spending her life as a boring studious girl. Aditya Roy Kapur as Avinash urf  ‘Avi’, a fun, flirtatious guy who always keeps on drinking. He is Bunny & Aditi’s best friend. Kalki Koechlin as Aditi Mehra, a tomboy, childish girl but matured by time. Madhuri Dixit appears in an item number titled ‘Ghagra’ with Ranbir Kapoor in this film. Evelyn Sharma is charming as usual. Rana Daggubati looks cool in his cameo, the photographer at Aditi’s wedding. He likes Naina and flirts with her by sending her messages with lyrics of Bollywood romantic songs. Continue reading “Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani Movie Review”

Bang Bang Movie review

An official remake of Tom Cruise and Cameron Diaz’s ‘Knight & Day’, Bang Bang is again a film made only for Hrithik Roshan just like his other movies. Hrithik is looking as usual charming, specially his dance, green eyes and attractive physique. And if you don’t compare him with Tom Cruise, then the dialogue delivery and fighting scenes are also worth appreciating. And if you are a Katrina Kaif fan, then you would love her innocence and beauty too. Continue reading “Bang Bang Movie review”

Who was R.K. Narayan?

Today Google paid tribute to R. K. Narayan, through google doodle on the search engine. But do we at once remember who that person is? Probably 90% people will answer ‘NO‘. And no doubt I am one of them. The only way to recognize him was to read ‘Malgudi Days’ written on the book cover held by him in the doodle. Then only we come to know that this is that person who has written the Malgudi Days and then we remember those wonderfully delighted stories that we used to see on television when we were kids. Continue reading “Who was R.K. Narayan?”